IWSG 47: KINDNESS IS IMPORTANT TOO

This post was written for the Insecure Writer’s Support Group where we share our encouragement or insecurities on the first Wednesday of the month, to join the group or find out more click here.

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OPTIONAL IWSG Day Question:

When your writing life is a bit cloudy or filled with rain, what do you do to dig down and keep on writing?

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Olga Godim | Chemist Ken | Renee Scattergood | Tamara Narayan

Sometimes I land up very insecure about what I’m doing or not doing. I get carried away by what I think everyone else is writing and I think I’m not good enough. Maybe we all do this.

The only thing that makes me feel better is remembering…

I used to partake in the NaNo month and camps until I dug so deep I felt like a dry well. That scared me more than not writing for a few weeks when I needed a break or when I needed to think about where my story was going and how I was going to get there.

We all are different. We should allow ourselves to create the way we need too. Some of us push creativity out like toothpaste from a tube and others let it happen. Whichever way you create doesn’t matter.

Creation is a gift and so is your talent.

Follow your heart. It’s all about nurture and self-care. Talk to yourself as if you are your best friend or a vulnerable child. Be respectful of who you are and how you function. Know it is okay to take a long time or pump it out. It’s your journey. Jog. Walk. Smell the flowers.

Nothing about creativity is standard.

The only thing that matters is it feeds your soul and you’re proud of the final product. Something I try to remember when it’s cloudy and the rain is falling.

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98 responses to “IWSG 47: KINDNESS IS IMPORTANT TOO

  1. Inspirational words 🙂

  2. spunkonastick

    Some of us need to make it happen.

  3. Great insight and thoughts. Happy IWSG.

  4. Thanks for these supportive words and helpful insights, Anna. Being down makes it hard to write and focus. Remembering the good stuff and accepting yourself the way you are should help. I’ll try it sometime!

  5. I loved “Nothing is standard about creativity.” Absolutely true.

  6. Great thoughts and insights and good luck with all of your writing!!

  7. Your analogy of pushing creativity out like toothpaste made my day.

  8. Remembering makes me feel better too; I remember WHY I am writing.

  9. “I get carried away by what I think everyone else is writing and I think I’m not good enough.” This describes me most days. And I agree – all that matters is that we keep going, at our own pace, on our own path. That’s how we find our own voice and truth, instead of imitating someone else’s.

  10. What you said is so true. Though it’s easy to get caught up in what everyone else is doing, it’s better to find our own path to creativity, whether we write slowly or fast or a mixture of the two.

  11. Anna – what a wonderful post! This really spoke to me. I especially liked this line –> “We should allow ourselves to create the way we need too.”

  12. You’re so right. Creativity is a gift, yes, no matter in what guise it visits you. It could be writing or cooking or book cover design. It is welcome in any incarnation.

  13. So true that we are all different and shouldn’t compare ourselves to others.

  14. I think that’s how I’m going to think about creativity from now on: easy as pushing it out of a tube. 🙂 Great post!

  15. A wonderfully inspiring post. We are all different and that’s what makes art in any form beautiful.

  16. Sometimes my creativity feels like I’m trying to squeeze toothpaste out of a tube that still has the cap on. Thanks for the thoughts on creativity.

  17. Awww…I love this post Anna. Thank you for the smile today 🙂

  18. “Nothing about creativity is standard.”
    This is so true. I used to get so discouraged by people who posted huge word counts everyday. Now I understand that just isn’t my process. Thanks for sharing

  19. I love this line: “Talk to yourself as if you are your best friend or a vulnerable child.” That is something I need to keep in mind too. Thanks for putting your heart into this one as always, Anna!

  20. Even I get carried away by what everyone else is writing and then I feel I’m not good enough.
    I love this, ” Creation is a gift and so is your talent.’

  21. I agree we should acknowledge who we are and what works for us. That’s half our challenge solved.

  22. Yes, indeed–“Know thyself” is especially important for writers.

  23. Every writer is different, and we all need downtime to replenish ourselves. It’s never good to compare yourself to others–unless it’s to inspire you!

  24. I think you’ve really nailed why people who create stories are often so insecure. We really can’t measure our success against others or even ourselves. There’s nothing standard about what we do. Who knows what’s “great” or “good” or “mediocre”?

  25. Hi,
    I so appreciate your insights because they are so true. So many times we forget to be a gentle friend to ourselves.
    Shalom aleichem,
    Pat G

  26. Agree and co-sign on all of it!

  27. True — no standard works for everyone.

  28. “We all are different. We should allow ourselves to create the way we need to.” I couldn’t like this sentence more. One thing that drives me batty is *writer advice* given like it was gospel, as if any of that advice is more than “this worked for me, it might work for you.”

  29. I especially love that last thought. I read a children’s book to my daughter the other day that had me looking at writing in a whole new light because it was so stinkin’ creative. But it was a different kind of creativity and I rejoiced that someone had been ingenious enough to come up with it.

  30. Thank you so much for visiting my blog.
    I like your statement, “Nothing about creativity is standard.” Keeping that in mind, we can all find a way to create and find balance in the way that best suits us.

  31. This is such a wonderful post. Thank you for sharing this 🙂 I’ve spent the past year learning that my creative journey is just that: MY journey and it doesn’t matter how long it takes me to “get there”. All that matters is that I take one step after another, forward, in the right direction and to enjoy the journey.

  32. Everyone’s writing journey is different- what works for another writer might not work for me. I regard creativity as a muscle- the more work we do with it, the stronger it gets.

  33. We all ARE different. And yes, creativity comes to us in different ways. (I never did NaNo because it would stress me out to the point where I wouldn’t write, and I know people who say it did wonders for them.)

  34. Victoria Marie Lees

    Nothing about creativity is standard. Boy is that right! I’ve never done NaNo. I don’t need more stress to write. Thanks for sharing this with your followers, Anna.

  35. So true. We are unique people with our own hopes, talents, bocks, and solutions!

  36. Sandra Ulbrich Almazan

    Sometimes one gets so busy caring for others that it’s hard to find time for yourself! It’s good to have a reminder!

  37. Self care is a very important part of creative process! Good post.

  38. Great advice and encouragement today. I also scrolled down and read the Margaret Atwood quote about writing like no one will read it. That works for me, too. That’s how I was able to write my short story that will be in the Tick Tock IWSG anthology.

  39. Vikki J. Carter

    Love your words today! I am new to writing. I started a podcast just this month because I was gathering so much great insight from other authors I have been meeting….it is all too good to keep to myself. I am loving the creative side of my life now! I just learned about IWSG today from another blogger who is participating in the A – Z Challenge. Here’s my humble blog start if you wish to see it: https://www.squishpen.com/vikkijcarterblog

  40. mlouisebarbourfundyblue

    Wise and much-needed words, Anna! Count me as one of those people who doesn’t think I’m a good enough. I battle that bogeyman a lot. I just keep doggedly writing and figuring out how to do it as I go. It’s important to be kind and gentle with yourself in all areas of your life, and I try to remember that every day. I smile at myself in the mirror every morning and try to love me for exactly who I am. All the best to you as you write!

  41. “Follow your heart. It’s all about nurture and self-care.” I love that. It’s so true.

  42. It’s easy to compare our writing and success with that of others, but unless we learn something which helps us improve, it’s usually a mistake to do this. As you say, we’re all different and work and succeed in different ways.

  43. Suzanne Furness

    These are very wise words. I agree that we are all different and we need to find our own path, there isn’t a right or wrong way to do things. I sometimes feel the need to take a complete break from writing and I think this is fine.
    Best wishes with your writing.

  44. Beautiful uplifting post. Wonderful, Anna! 🙂

  45. What an encouraging post, Anna. Go you!

  46. “Nothing about creativity is standard.” I love that!

    I’ve been burned out from writing for a LONG time…a year…and I definitely put myself here by doing to much and digging too deep.

  47. Well said. I’m so tired of writing advice that says a writer HAS to do this or SHOULD do that. Every writer is different, and one size definitely does not fit all.

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