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What is it?
‘Imposters’ suffer from chronic self-doubt and a sense of intellectual fraudulence that override any feelings of success or external proof of their competence. They seem unable to internalize their accomplishments, however successful they are in their field.
from Harvard Business Review
What does it feel like?
…can leave people fearing that they will be exposed as a “fraud”, usually in their work lives.
Do you have these symptoms?
- Have Difficulty Accepting Praise
- Tend to Discount Your Success
- Often Described as a Perfectionist
- Actually Dread Success, in Some Ways
- Focus More on What You Haven’t Done
- Convinced You’re Not Enough
- Attribute Success to Anything But Your Skill Set or Ability
- Go Overboard With Task and Goal-Setting
What to do about it?
Talk it out. Learn more about it. Track your accomplishments and celebrate them. Accept perfection is impossible. And STOP THE NEGATIVE SELF-TALK.
We are people first; writers second. And we need to use self care and kindness not just on others but on ourselves. If you wouldn’t say something to someone you care about, then don’t dare say it to yourself.
Because the bottom line is, self judgment and condemnation is bad. Very bad.
Have you ever dealt with this? What did you do to fend it off?